Alfred at home, holding his son and baby daughter

Hello, I'm Alfred Lua 赖勇德

I'm a hands-on dad of two (3.2 and 0.8 years old), building a small business around my family.

Growing up, my dreams were working in Silicon Valley, starting a business and traveling the world. I never thought I'd be excited to write about being a dad. But when my son was born, I realized my being a father isn't a passive "be" but an active one. I want to be a great father.

I've been his main caregiver for more than three years, and my daughter joined us in 2026. Along the way, I found that most parenting resources are made for mothers, even though more and more fathers are hands-on. Nobody is naturally a great parent. So I collect stories, quotes, and philosophies that help me be more patient, handle meltdowns better, and help my kids grow. And I write them down as reminders. For myself first, and for dads who want to be better too.

What I make

Writing for dads: short reminders from Saturday to Thursday, and a longer letter on Fridays. I write them to myself first; you're welcome to read along by email.
Fernsage: the digital commonplace book I'm building, the business I'm growing around my family. It's where I keep every quote and idea behind my writing, and it brings one back to me every day so I don't forget them. Browse my book.